Being Modest is not shameful

Being modest was just as important to me on the outside as much as it was inside. It was hard to stop sexualizing myself because that’s where I got my confidence from. And after coming back to Christ I had to let go of that womb of thinking my body should be used to attract attention and not my spirit.

It’s actually funny because in person I was totally different from who I was on social media. I was quiet, and never clubbed, or slept around. I valued a relationship and exploring life through traveling. But before I came back to Christ, I was in a stronghold stuck in between a one sided relationship, and trying to make my career happen without God. I was also severely dealing with depression, and didn’t know how to be happy, especially since the person I needed to protect me couldn’t do so emotionally.

And now at 23, I am single and have been trying to start over in love, and it has been terrible since my flesh doesn’t want to wait on a godly man, and I’ve learned even if a guy is nice and respectful it still doesn’t change the fact that he doesn’t know God. And what that means is that he cannot love you since his definition of love will come from human origins and not from God and what his word says love is.

And yes I am still abstinent no Sex and actually I don’t believe in sleeping around. When I was not following God, I only sleepy with my ex and was abstinent 5 years before I had met him. And that’s another lesson I’ve learned. Is that it doesn’t matter if you are in a long term relationship, until you stand before God and say your vows, anything outside of marriage is sin (fornication)

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 1 Corinthians 7:9

Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4

It’s for our protection not to stop us from enjoying sex, because God created it, but just like with any good thing there are boundaries a marriage is one of them. Because if there isn’t how will we protect our hearts from getting trampled on from men who have the wrong intentions? Or from STDs? And I know for me marriage isn’t just the goal, but to have a godly marriage where my husband will love me as Christ loves the church.

Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it to make it belong to God. Ephesians 5:25-27

Too many men fall for one woman then fall for another one, his eyes are never straight but wandering.

Marrying a man with discipline and self control is very crucial for a healthy relationship and marriage. Because there will be times when it gets boring, or maybe one of you gets sick, what will your marriage stand on? Sex? Money? Love? If there’s no God in your relationship it will fail, because we as people make errors and we don’t get it right.

The Bible says not to be wise in your own eyes

Proverbs 3:7 Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and shun evil.

If God is not in our relationship we have no purpose, we are just with each other based on attraction and love. There’s no sacrifice, no higher power that we must answer to. And that’s why marriages fail today because God is not in it.